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2010-01-23T00:51:00.000-06:00

A Philosophy on Ds Relationship - Setting the Foundation

A thought provoking article on power exchange and the dynamics of the D/s relationshipA thought provoking article on power exchange and the dynamics of the D/s relationship.

2009-05-30T11:49:00.003-05:00

I've neglected to update my update page! I'm such a spaz sometimes. Today I spent an hour or so updating the Bdsm Blogs page. So many people come and go that it can seem like a full time job just keeping up with the new blogs and taking down the abandoned ones.

2008-08-17T17:05:00.004-05:00

New Article: Who are You? - Where are You with Yourself & The Lifestyle?

New Blogs: Click here to visit our blog community.

2008-01-10T21:25:00.000-06:00

New Article: The D/s Cheat Sheet

My little way of simplifying D/s for everyone. Keep in mind, that like ALL D/s sites, the articles here reflect MY opinions and MY thoughts.

2006-06-04T12:37:00.000-05:00

New card added to Female Dominant card section.

View Cards Here

Enjoy!

2006-06-03T07:54:00.000-05:00

New Article:

Demands vs Expectations

We all know what we want and we all know that, mostly, we'll get some of it and not all of it. Occasionally I talk to people who say they've ticked off every box on their wish list when it comes to a person to share themselves with but, frankly, I treat those people in a similar way to the ones that insist Elvis lives. With great suspicion. more...

Enjoy!

2006-05-30T12:16:00.000-05:00

New Cards for female dominants to send. Click Here to View

New Blog Links Added. Go See!

2005-11-20T11:33:00.000-06:00

New Cards

New cards for a dominant to send were added. You will find the newest at the bottom of the selections. Click here for cards

New Article Added

Role-Playing Scenarios

Fun bdsm scene ideas and scenarios.

2005-06-05T17:58:00.000-05:00

New Article

He Looks like a Dom and Quacks like a Dom , but is he really a Dom?

Thoughts on the difference between appearing to be in control, and actually being in control.

2005-05-01T06:15:00.000-05:00

Submissive Loving's Blog Community is now open.

I have listed some great submissive blogs but we are in need of dominant blogs. *hint hint*

2005-04-21T13:54:00.000-05:00

New Section on the Site: Submissive Loving's Lifestyle Blog Community

I am currently accepting links to lifestyle blogs on that page. I will be posting links beginning May 1st.

2005-04-19T10:27:00.000-05:00

New Featured Toy: The Venus Penis

This unique powerful clitoral, vaginal and anal stimulator is discrete with its clear see through design.

2005-04-03T12:53:00.000-05:00

New Article: Can D/s Survive Marriage?

A well written piece by slave dove who looks at the stark realities of 24/7 dominance & submission.

2004-10-27T06:49:00.000-05:00

New Toy of the Month: The televib - Finally you can truly touch your loved one or your submissive from across the globe. All you need is either a telephone or a computer with internet access. This is the most popular new toy around!!

2004-09-12T14:58:00.000-05:00

Toy of the Month

Toy of the Month is a new page where I can share my new favorite toys with everyone. I was inspired last night when the house Mistress was playing with a new gadget that everyone thought was pretty fabulous.

The Electric Paddle

Enjoy!!

2004-09-11T18:16:00.000-05:00

New male submission themed card titled 'Blissfully Bound' added to cards section. The male submission cards are found at the bottom of the page. Will be adding more soon. I promise!

View submissive themed cards here

2004-08-29T19:53:00.000-05:00

New snippets:

Added a few words from moi to the Online bdsm page.

New books:

Added a cbt how-to book by Diva Midori (bottom of page) Click HERE to look

Found a delightful novel to add to the fiction section. Journey Round a Darker Sun

2004-06-18T13:06:00.000-05:00

New page: BDSM/Sex Toys

Where to find quality bondage gear, fetish wear, and other fun toys to enhance play time!

2004-05-26T23:54:00.000-05:00

New Article:

Points to Ponder - More Advice for Dominants

2003-12-19T13:38:00.000-06:00

I wanted to take some time to say thank you to all of you for what
you have given to me by your continued support of Submissive Loving
and have created a special holiday card for you. *hugs and many
smooches*

Cerina

Click Here To View Card

2003-12-13T03:00:00.000-06:00

New Article:

Submission From Strength

by Michael O'Caughin

The following was written as Michael's response to someone's offhand comment that they were surprised to find I (Cerina) am a submissive due to my manner and "attitude". I've held onto a copy of this for months and finally felt that it might be helpful to others in understanding why a strong willed submissive is found valuable. I mostly put off posting this to the site because I was shy about appearing to be tooting my own horn since the article is complimentary to...well......me. I simply want other submissives and dominants to know that subservience and submission are two different kettles of fish.

Thank you,
Cerina X

2003-10-28T18:24:00.000-06:00

New Article:

The Number One Fear

Written in response to the recent site poll: "What is your greatest fear regarding entering into or being in a d/s relationship?"

2003-10-05T19:41:00.000-05:00

New Cards

Four cards featuring artist Olivia Berardinis

2003-10-04T14:16:00.000-05:00

Redesigned the information resource section of the site.

BDSM Books

2003-07-23T21:57:00.000-05:00

Redesigned the Tantric Realm and added a new article about the "sex muscle".

2003-07-11T13:56:00.000-05:00

Edited Article:

The Cinderella Complex

Fixed some spelling and added two new paragraphs.

New Article:

Dumped How to Spot a Non Dominant from the site and replaced it with:

Unhealthy Control - Warning Signs of a Non Dominant

Announced New Book:

Added the newly released book, "The New Topping Book" to Submissive Loving's Bookshop

2003-06-17T18:42:00.000-05:00

Edited Article:

D/s 101 - The basics

Now only using my definitions and meanings to set the tone for my site.

Added:

Two new animated Submissive Loving banners to the banner page.

A few new cards to the D/s Postcards

Have eliminated most of the links to the Forum as that is pretty much dead. People aren't as interested in discussion and sharing as I think they should be so I'm killing the forum for lack of participation. (yes, this is me scolding a bit *grin*)

In general I've been tweaking html and other little items around the site. Most of it you won't notice but it needed to be done.

2003-03-11T17:34:00.000-06:00

New Articles:

When Times Get Tough, Don't Get Selfish

The article is for submissives who might be feeling selfish regarding their dominants time and attention when he/she is going through a stressful period in their life.

Are You a Dominant or a God?

One submissive's words to dominants who may be going through a crisis of faith regarding their ability to dominate successfully.

2003-03-08T13:03:00.000-06:00

Two New Articles:

Anticpating a Dominant's Needs

Anticipation of needs is one aspect of submission that my Master expects from me and I do believe that there are many other dominants who expect the same effort.

Anticipating a Dominant's Needs Part 2

A realistic approach from a slave regarding anticipation of her Master's needs.

Edits:
Fixed the links to the jealousy test and other recommended links on jealousy on the Submission and Jealousy article.

Tweaked and added another paragraph to the True, Real, and Wannabe: Ridding ourselves of the country club mentality article.

2003-02-25T17:01:00.000-06:00

Two New Original Articles:

Ok, so Master beat me to the punch and finished his articles before
mine. I am very proud to present his work under the nom de plume,
Michael O'Caughin, and promptly changed the name on his previous
articles.

As usual, any and all thoughts regarding the articles on this site
are more than welcome.

An Examination of Sadism, Domination, and Punishment

Mike presents an interesting look at what it means to him as a
dominant regarding the punishment of a submissive.

The Training of a Sensual Submissive

A helpful article regarding training a submissive to be your perfect
sensual partner.

2003-02-03T18:58:00.000-06:00

Erotic Valentines are here along with a few more all occasion D/s postcards.

Click HERE to view the postcards

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2003-01-11T22:03:00.000-06:00

Two New Articles:

True, Real, and Wannabe. Ridding Ourselves of the Country Club Mentality.

It's amazing that "adults" are eager to adopt such a juvenile attitude and frame of mind.

Why We Do What We Do or....What the Heck Do I Want a Dom for Anyway?

An intimate peek into one woman's inner desires for a dominant male..
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2002-12-12T21:00:00.000-06:00

New Article: Submission and Jealousy

Out of control jealousy: The poison pill to any relationship.

2002-11-06T19:45:00.000-06:00

New Article: Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits: Part 2. Satiating the Beast

The following conversation was created to help submissives who have concerns/fears about being able to satisfy the desires of a dominant who enjoys pushing limits and has extensive experience with such. This article is intended to aide in calming those fears. I had them myself and thought I would share my experience with all of you in a creative setting.

2002-11-02T17:00:00.000-06:00

New Link: Polyamory

This article is on another site but is by far the best I've found which thorougly and carefully explains what polyamory is and is NOT. Get the facts before you wig out and rant about something you do not have any facts on.

2002-11-02T16:06:00.000-06:00

New Article: Ownership and Collars

Hopefully I'm able to clear up some confusion regarding both.

2002-09-28T18:01:00.000-05:00

The Cinderella Complex....by Cerina

The Cinderella Complex is a mind state where someone believes that if the right "One" comes into their life, all of their problems will disappear.

2002-07-20T14:21:00.000-05:00

Adding a new sister site called, Sensuality. Right now I just have the recommended reading page up.

2002-06-11T22:18:00.000-05:00

Two new original articles:

A lesson everyone MUST learn in this lifestyle: Tolerance

Attracted to dominants with a sadistic streak or who may like to play a bit close to the edge? Icky Stuff, Scary Places, and Limits addresses the issue of attraction to bad boys..

2002-05-07T20:42:00.000-05:00

Want to surprise your Dom or sub with a new technique? Try out our "hot tips", lingam (penis), and yoni (vagina) massages at Submissive Loving's new Tantric Realm! Be sure to stop back as we will be adding the quality laden Kama Sutra products along with free erotic postcards..

2002-05-03T21:12:00.000-05:00

New original article: Your Definition of Domination

Getting the domination you want by having the ability to communicate what your definition of domination is to you.

2002-03-04T21:04:00.000-06:00

New original article:Choosing a Dom: Know Exactly What You Want
written by Cerina

New Topics on message board.
What exactly do you want a dominant for?
Name one trait you MUST have in a submissive
Feelings regarding humiliaton

2002-02-06T09:00:00.000-06:00

New article: How Should a Dominant End the Relationship??

written by Master Sensuality and His cerina

Phase one of new little project is on the message board: Name the ONE trait your Dominant MUST have....

New topic of the week on the board along with the above is Emotional Health - A submissive's responsibility

2002-01-23T17:50:00.000-06:00

Added new article, Submissive Frenzies by Mistress Steel .......you may click HERE to view it.

Also added four new cards to the BDSM Postcards selection

2002-01-12T23:14:00.000-06:00

Ok, I took some time off but am now back. I just couldn't resist the lure of working on this site. I will be adding a couple of new articles very soon. Most likely within the next week so be sure to check in.

cerina

2002-01-02T14:25:00.000-06:00

Due to an unfortunate coincidence in my life, I will be taking some time off indefinitely from Submissive Loving. I only ask that the visitors to this site help keep it going by sharing the url and contributing to the message board and the MSN community. Thank you.

Cerina

2001-11-28T00:20:00.000-06:00

You can now stay informed about updates to our site by not only bookmarking this page but you can join our new mailing list as well. Just click HERE to join!

2001-11-27T09:39:00.000-06:00

Submissive Loving now offers D/s postcards!! Yeahhhh!!! I figured out how to do it!! You have NO idea just how proud of this I am. Please go vist at THIS LINK to the cards

2001-11-26T09:58:00.000-06:00

October 18th, 2001
Dominance in the New Millenium
The most widely used "Master's Creed", in my opinion, is horribly out of date and far too "harlequin". I asked the same dominant who wrote My Last Sub to rewrite the creed to more accurately reflect our changing times.

The Modern Master recognises His responsibility that in accepting the gift of submission from His slave/submissive, He has obligations.

October 9th, 2001
Searching for Mr. GoodChat
This article is NOT flattering to online dominants. I will not apologize for it as I would rather have newbies begin their online journey with great caution than with visions of harlequin romance in their heads.

What submissives can expect when searching the online mine field for a Dominant.

October 7th, 2001
Pleasing Your Dominant
How a submissive can gracefully handle mistakes and why is seems difficult to please the Dominant at times.

This is a subject not often found on sites. Everyone seems to leave all advice regarding pleasing a dominant up to the Dom. I thought it was about time a submissive spoke up

October 4th, 2001
A Master's Prayer (My Last Sub)
This article was written by a dominant with 20 years of real life experience who sat down to write about the type of submissive who would qualify as the last and only submissive he would need.

My next Sub will be my last. She will be as devoted to me as I am to her. She will trust in my loyalty and my judgement. She will feel safe in my presence and still feel my protection in my absence. She will never mistake sensitivity and caring for weakness.

10 Rules for a Wise Dominant

Ten rules I've held fast to when choosing a dominant. Ten rules every dominant should follow.
1) The submissive's SAFETY will always be of top priority to a wise Dominant, both physically and emotionally...........

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